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#Listen: It is not all about SEX #Listen: It is not all about SEX
A lot of girls today complain guys walk away from them simply because they refused having sex with them. While some are even tempted... #Listen: It is not all about SEX

A lot of girls today complain guys walk away from them simply because they refused having sex with them. While some are even tempted given away their virginity just to keep the guy.

Let me be blunt here . Looking at it critically you will see that virginity may not be the real reason why guys walk away,it may not be sex either.

The story of the ten virgins in the bible made us to understand that both the wise and the foolish were virgin; the other five were not allowed to see the bridegroom not because they were virgin or they lost their virginity….

NO! But because they were foolish and called foolish because they had no EXTRA OIL
And what is that EXTRA OIL if i may ask?

The EXTRA OIL here is your character or those things you can offer in a relationship apart from SEX, VIRGINITY AND PHYSICAL BEAUTY.

Most girls don’t have that EXTRA OIL to sustain them in any relationship, while some brag about virginity, that’s all they’ve got to offer.

Apart from virginity and sex what else can u offer to a man ?

  1. Can you support him physically ?
  2. Can you support him financially ?
  3. Can you support him spiritually ?
  4. How about mentally?

All you do is demanding money for bags, shoes, cloths and outing. Making him spend unnecessarily because you see relationship as a Job opportunity, sex as your office duty and virginity as a CV or qualification for the job.

Have u ever sat him down and helped him plan his future?

Has he ever seen you as someone he can confide in ?

How many times has he come to you in a state of dilemma seeking your advice ?

Rather than jumping from one club to another all in the name of enjoyment.

As for the virgins that refuse to understand or even remember that virginity ends after wedding night but the EXTRA OIL continues….

Though nobody is perfect because we all have our bad sides.But try to be a woman that a man a will always regret losing for the rest of his life.Be that woman that your man can’t afford loosing to another man.

Build your man to your taste and stop looking for already made husband because u can get an already made t- shirt but it wont size you like the one tailored with your measurement.

Force yourself on a rich-man you didn’t work with to achieve what he has and hear your life story and also answered to heated question someday.

Question like;

  1. Has anything been added to this house since your arrival?
  2. Did you work with me to achieve all I’ve got?
  3. What is your contribution or in impact in our relationship?
  4. There is nothing better than building up your man yourself because you will forever earn his respect, trust and love.


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